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DO YOU DATE ONLY VEGANS?

I'm one of the fortunate vegans to have known many wonderful vegans, and so was able to make it a stand 'to ONLY be intimate with vegans'. I feel, if someone REALLY loves me, they would understand and become vegan also. But the great majority of responders did not agree with me, and answered 'no' for various reasons. Many of them responded 'no' simply because it limits the pool too much or they don't ever meet vegans. Others felt dating is a good way to educate non-vegans. Some thought dating non-vegans was fine, but they would not get seriously involved with a non-vegan. Others are happily married to non-vegans. Amazingly, once again, we find diversity of thought amongst responders to the Vegan Relationship Survey question: DO YOU DATE ONLY VEGANS?

230

responded NO, for various reasons like these: 'NO , I've never met another vegan, let alone date one', or 'No, dating is a good way to educate someone' or 'No way!; I'd be too lonely!' or 'My husband ate meat when we met but is now vegan' or 'Too limiting of the pool' or 'No, but that person must be accepting of my vegan lifestyle'.

140

responded Not Applicable or I don't date (a very common response) or who has time to date or I'd prefer not to answer or I'm married (some very happily married and 6 responders were approaching 50 years of marriage, and others just said I'm married with kids. There were quite a few jokesters about how their spouse would not like them to date, such as Only if my husband approves tee-hee).

68

responded Yes, I only date vegans, or if I dated, I'd only date vegans

65

responded No, but must be at least vegetarian.

34

responded 'If I dated, he'd have to be vegan.' Or ' I'm married, but if I were single, I'd only date vegans (but I wouldn't be rude about it!)'

26

responded I'm married or in a relationship with a vegan.

17

responded I'm married to a non-vegan (carnivore, omnivore, meat-eater), some unhappily.

15

responded I wouldn't get into a serious relationship/marriage with someone who is not or won't become vegan, but dating is okay.

15

responded Vegan is 'preferred', but possibly a connection could be made with a non-vegan

12

responded I wish...'I wish that were feasible' or 'I would love to'.

7

responded I'm in a relationship with or married to a vegetarian (trying to become vegan is important).

6

responded Dating vegans are ideal, but would date someone open to change or becoming vegan.

4

responded I haven't dated since I've become a vegan

3

responded I wouldn't kiss a meat-eater

2

responded I would date non-vegan, but if they didn't see 'the light' fairly quickly, I would move on.

1

responded No ruling on this subject, but conversations with someone trying to convince me not to be vegan have occurred and it is smoother when dating vegans.

1

responded My partner is non-vegan, but in the future I will probably only date vegetarians/vegans.

1

responded I'm celibate, but if dated again, vegan would be ideal.

1

responded I haven't, but it's a good idea from past experience.

1

responded Since I went vegan several years ago, I've only dated vegans, so far.

1

responded I would only date a non-vegan who was already on the way to becoming vegan.

1

responded Yes, or if they are not, I help them become one.

1

responded I should have! (Regretfully married to a non-vegan).

1

responded I would date either vegan or willing to become vegan.

1

responded No, but in retrospect, my most successful relationships were with vegans.

1

responded I believe in conversion, but now only date vegans. In the past, I've dated non-vegans.

1

responded No, but I'm not looking for a long term relationship. I would only settle down with someone, at least vegetarian.

1

responded I'm attracted to vegans.

1

responded I was already married (to a non-vegan) when I went vegan.

1

responded No, I'm open-minded.

1

responded No way! I would never go on any dates!

1

responded I haven't dated for awhile, but if I was to start dating, he would probably have to be vegan, or at least vegetarian, even though P.E.T.A. says to date carnivores and convert!

1

responded No most women I've dated were not vegan until they met me.

1

responded If that became reality (not likely since I am happily married to a wonderful vegan lady), I would gravitate toward a vegan partner, but do explore friendships with each person I meet on their own special merits.

1

responded No, sheesh, I don't date as it is, if I started restricting it more, I'd be alone forever!

1

responded Yep. It is my passion, and compassion is SO attractive!

responded No, although eventually I'd like to reach that level.

1

responded Not necessarily, there are so few of them. I did meet my present relationship/partner on www.veggiedate.com

1

responded (laugh out loud) It would be a wise choice. Thankfully, I married one.

1

responded I've only been in two relationships (sad I know), both were disasters, the first was a meat-eater, the second was a pescetarian. I would love to date a vegetarian, let alone a vegan. I'm a straight female though and there aren't many male vegans out there!



"No, because there are not many single male vegans in Auckland, New Zealand, however I dated a vegan who lived in NYC!"

Nichola, Auckland, New Zealand

"If I could... I would."

Lani, Johannesburg, South Africa

"Absolutely!"

Anonymous, Washington D.C., U.S.A.

"I prefer to date vegans/vegetarians, though would also date a convertible, more ethical omnivore."

Anonymous, London, England, U.K.

"I don't date. I'm a dateless loser. But if I did date...yes....only vegans...they are the only men who appeal to me and whom I find sexy (I'm not being facetious, I really mean that."

Anonymous, Seattle, WA., U.S.A.

"I'd like to only date a vegan."

Di Smith, Cape Town, South Africa

"Yes, absolutely. They smell much better and have the same morals as I do. They are more pure of heart and non-aggressive."

Anonymous, Toronto, Canada

"I'm married to a vegan. But if I was single, I think I would have a hard time dating a meat-eater."

Katy, Virginia, U.S.A.

"My husband is awesome, fine as heck and not a vegan."

Shannon, Florida, U.S.A.

"That is really important for me. I've only been a vegan for a few years, but being vegan says a lot about someone."

Anonymous, Fargo, North Dakota, U.S.A.

"No. This has been a long-standing point of debate that I've had with myself. But no. Right now, for example, I'm dating an omnivore. It doesn't make me happy (the omnivorishness), but I hope maybe my influence can affect that some. Will it become a point of contention in the future? It could very well be. But I hope that perhaps my influence will be of some good."

Lindy Loo, Cleveland, Ohio, U.S.A.

"I'm married to a vegan. But when I dated, I did date non-vegans, but it never worked out. Only when I dated a vegan, did it stick."

Hope Bohanec, Santa Rosa, CA., U.S.A.

"Assuming physical attraction on my part, women who subscribe exclusively to a whole foods, plant-based diet, in addition to the ethical portion of veganism, are, in my opinion, extremely attractive beings."

Ethan Handur, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

"No, or I would be celibate. Or, I would have to move to another part of the country."

Anonymous, Central Scotland

"Hardly! It is nicer when they are, so we can share food, but if not, I still usually insist they get something vegan when we eat out, so I can try theirs. (Batting eyelids is a big help)."

Anonymous, Perth, Australia

"No, but now that I have a vegan partner, I'd hate to go back."

Kris Dove, Paisley, Scotland

"No, as the pool can be a bit limited. I would rather just date vegans, though!!! I would never want to settle down with someone in the long term who is not vegan."

Caroline, London, England, U.K.

"At this point, for a serious relationship, you'd have to be vegan or become vegan. For a casual date, it wouldn't matter too much, but it does gross me out to dine where animal flesh is being served. I find it offensive now."

Cheryl Hill, Austin, Texas, U.S.A.

"Absolutely. I could never have a close relationship with someone who is okay with cruelty or destruction of our environment. I make non-vegan friends, in hopes that I can lead by example."

Danielle, Costa Rica, U.S.A.

"I prefer it, but I never meet any, so I occasionally 'dabble' in carnivores."

Rainbow Casey, Southern California, U.S.A.

"I would only date vegans or those willing to become sensitive and compassionate human beings; however, I would gladly convey a vegan message of love to open-minded omnivores."

Anonymous, Vegan since the 70's, 56-75 age group

"I don't take a diet into consideration for attractiveness. Cannibalism, I will consider, though."

Thomas, NOT a vegan, under 18 @ time of survey, from Alabama, U.S.A. (He mistakenly thinks veganism is a diet.)

"I have been dating non-vegans, but haven't really been happy in these relationships. Veganism /animal activism is one of the most important things in my life, and it would be great to be with someone who shares these values."

Anonymous, Melbourne, Australia (19-30 age group)

"NO. I was already married before I became vegan. May have been different if I was single."

Tommy, Melbourne, Australia

"I would like to. I don't feel fortunate enough to be in that position, though. I would not feel comfortable having a serious relationship with someone who was not vegetarian."

Anonymous, Brisbane, Australia (19-30 age group)

"I am married (happily) to a man who became vegan through our marriage, but would make selection if someone doesn't want to understand me, then he doesn't love me. I mean, I would give a chance to a meat-eater, but before we go out, we should talk about veganism, as I could not kiss no one who just eat a cow."

Jelena, Serbia/Belgrade

"It hasn't been a problem (my omni boyfriend went vegetarian and then vegan soon after we stared dating), so I can't say for sure. I think it would be really annoying to date an omni or vegetarian at this point, but who knows? People do strange things for love."

Megan McClellan, Eugene, Oregon, U.S.A.

"No. I date people that I find interesting regardless of what they eat. Almost all of them are vegans, though. I am recently divorced and new at dating, and sense that I will probably become more choosy. Since men have either shifted toward veganism or converted entirely while in a romantic relationship with me, I would not discount a man who is not vegan."

Maribeth Abrams, Glastonbury, CT., U.S.A.


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